Tag: Childloss
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Happy? New Year
A fellow bereaved parent expressed surprise that the New Year hit her harder than Christmas did. She was prepared to be sad and emotional at Christmas, but she got through it okay. Instead, she found herself weeping on New Year’s Eve and waking up depressed the next morning. I commented that even almost eight years…
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Friends
I have commented more than once that one of the hardest things about losing my daughter was that I also lost a friend. Rachel was thirty years old when she died in a car accident just two months after her marriage. She and her older sister had very distinct personalities. Her sister liked to please…
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Not Prepared
One of the members of a bereaved parent Facebook page recently posted this passage. We Weren’t Prepared One minute you were here, the next, you were gone. There was no opportunity to say goodbye, to tell you we love you, one more time. We could not hug you, breathe you in or kiss your cheek.…
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Gap
Like most folks we took a group family photo after Thanksgiving dinner, and we probably will take another one Christmas day. I love random photos that capture people at their most real. Doing something they love, laughing uncontrollably, genuinely surprised, or in a pensive mood. The subject of the picture often feels like it isn’t…
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Light
The second Sunday in December is Worldwide Candle Lighting Day to honor the memory of children who have died. It started out specifically to commemorate children who died of cancer, but in 1997 The Compassionate Friends organization expanded it to include all children who left this world too soon. Families light a candle at 7:00…
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Bleak
Last week I wrote about a song called Thanksgiving Song. I talked about how the words encourage me to think about an eventual Heavenly banquet where we will know eternal gratitude. If you’re like me, you’re still finishing up Thanksgiving leftovers. Maybe you have your Christmas tree up and lights on your house. Perhaps you…
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Here They Come Again
Here they come again. I should be better prepared by now. This will be my 65th time I’ve celebrated them. You know, the holidays. Although I don’t really remember the first few, but there is photographic evidence that I was there for them. As a child, I was always filled with joyful anticipation of the…
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Appreciation
Last week I wrote about our rural neighborhood and our interactions with our neighbors. If you’re a frequent reader, you may have wondered what that post had to do with child loss. I’ll tell you something I’ve learned in the seven-and-a-half years since my daughter died. It’s the little things in life I’ve come to…
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Why I’m Still Here
This Thursday, the 31st will be Rachel’s birthday. It would be her 38th if she were still here on Earth; her 7th birthday spent in Heaven. I don’t know if birthdays are celebrated in Heaven. There is no passage of time in eternity. And every day is a celebration in the presence of God. But…
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Imperfect
Nobody’s perfect, right? We are all human. We know we are flawed, but it’s still so easy to compare ourselves to others and come up lacking. I mentioned in last week’s blog that I was going to be attending a retreat with some other bereaved mothers. It was even more of a blessing than I…
A Light for My Path 