Tag: Childloss
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Always
I often look back at past journal entries and sometimes marvel how much has changed, but often find that much of what I did, said, or felt still holds true. The things that stay the same tend to be because I’m a creature of habit. Things that have changed are frequently because I’ve gotten older,…
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Reading
I wrote this May 29, 2018, a year and seven weeks after Rachel died. I just did something I haven’t done in a long time — 59 weeks to be exact. I finished reading a novel. Sat completely absorbed in it for the better part of the past 2 1/2 days. That shouldn’t be a…
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Carry Me
When my girls were little, they would frequently raise their arms to me and plead “carry me.” Sometimes they were tired of walking but often they just wanted the comfort and security of being held close or the advantage of being adult height so they could see what was ahead. Occasionally my reply would be,…
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Music
Music has always been a big part of my life. Not that I am at all an accomplished musician myself. Oh, I took piano for six years and I can read music, but I have no talent for playing. I can stay on key if I stand beside another alto, but no one is clamoring…
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Did I Do All I Could Do?
There’s a song sung by country music duo Joey and Rory called “In the Time That You Gave Me.” They recorded the song after Joey was diagnosed with cervical cancer, which took her life a few months later. A repeated line in the song is “Did I do all I could do in the time…
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Doxology
I grew up in a traditional Presbyterian church. The Sunday morning service always followed a defined liturgy. To some folks a specific order of worship might feel staid and lacking in spontaneity. (The nickname for Presbyterians is the “frozen chosen,” after all.) To me though, the ritual was comforting. I knew all the hymns by…
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You Couldn’t Bear It
In the daily devotional for June 27th, the author Sarah Young writes as Jesus speaking to us and says: I designed time to be a protection for you. You couldn’t bear to see all your life at once. “Jesus Calling” by Sarah Young One of my earliest blog posts was titled “The Blessing of Not…
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Idols
I’ve written several times about concerns that bereaved parents have. My main reason for doing so is I don’t want grieving parents to add to their heartache and worry with thoughts that they are not normal or they are displeasing God. A frequent concern expressed by parents is that they don’t want to make an…
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It Could Happen Again
I belong to two private online groups for bereaved parents. Private in that membership is strictly limited to people who have lost a child. Not a parent, a spouse, sibling, or even a grandchild. This may seem unnecessarily limiting to some, but the reasoning is that child loss is unique. Bereaved parents face enough external…
