Tag: Bereavedparents
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New Normal
A phrase I hear a lot is “new normal.” It’s a way of saying “this is how things are now.” Whether we like it or not, we have to accept that something has changed and there’s no going back. People say it to describe a change in their lifestyle. A young woman who drove a…
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Hope (Again)
Because all my writing for this blog reflects my experience in child loss, I often come back to the same themes. And a lot of these themes have to do with what I’ve learned about God’s character or His Word. Hope has been on my mind a lot lately. But when I checked back through…
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Taboo
I have a very dear friend who I met through volunteering at a local thrift store. I serve on the board of a small nonprofit she established. Her credentials are impressive. She is an ordained pastor, a certified grief and marriage/family counselor. One of the several programs offered by her nonprofit is conducting grief workshops.…
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Absence
I’ve had a really hard time this week with writer’s block. I’ve sat down at my computer several times to write my blog post, and the words just wouldn’t come. I prayed for God to guide me. I looked through my list of post ideas. Nothing felt right. I blamed my fuzzy-brainedness on the nasty…
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Take Backs
I like to be in control. I’m a planner and detail oriented, so I feel comfortable taking a lead position. Because then I have control of what plan we follow and can ensure every “i” is dotted and every “t” is crossed. Of course, my being in control is a façade. There is so much…
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Better Than I Can
I’ve mentioned before that one of the devotionals I read each morning is Our Daily Bread. The devotional on Saturday, January 25th was titled “God’s Perfect Care” by Elisa Morgan. The prayer at the end of the piece said: Dear Father, please help me to trust you with my loved ones, knowing that You can…
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Replacements
This past October I had the opportunity to attend a retreat for bereaved mothers hosted by Melanie DiSimone. She is a writer, the leader and moderator of a Facebook group for bereaved parents entitled Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child, author of a blog The Life I Didn’t Choose, and, most recently the…
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Happy? New Year
A fellow bereaved parent expressed surprise that the New Year hit her harder than Christmas did. She was prepared to be sad and emotional at Christmas, but she got through it okay. Instead, she found herself weeping on New Year’s Eve and waking up depressed the next morning. I commented that even almost eight years…
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Friends
I have commented more than once that one of the hardest things about losing my daughter was that I also lost a friend. Rachel was thirty years old when she died in a car accident just two months after her marriage. She and her older sister had very distinct personalities. Her sister liked to please…
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Not Prepared
One of the members of a bereaved parent Facebook page recently posted this passage. We Weren’t Prepared One minute you were here, the next, you were gone. There was no opportunity to say goodbye, to tell you we love you, one more time. We could not hug you, breathe you in or kiss your cheek.…
A Light for My Path 